Cancel anytime. In this expanded and updated audio edition, Steve Biddulph shares and gives practical and honest advice to parents so they can recognise the different stages of boyhood and learn how to raise happy, confident and kind young men. Boys need to be parented in a different way from girls, with their own very special psychological and physical makeup. Home, society and education have failed boys badly - and these failures lead to unhappy men who cannot fully become happy, responsible, emotionally confident adults. While it is essential that boys spend more time learning about manhood from their fathers, Biddulph updates his classic to include helpful information for mothers and single mothers with baby boys. This extended edition explores some important topics: How ADHD may be caused by stress in the first year of life Whether boys should start school later than girls Help for single mothers raising sons How to choose a sport that does more good than harm What we can do about boys and binge drinking What science can tell us about teenage boys and driving - and how we can keep our sons safe Raising Boys offers parents real-life situations, thought-provoking insights, humour and help.
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Biddulph begins by outlining parenting strategies for three distinct stages of growth, from birth to six years, from six to fourteen, and from fourteen to adult. In a nutshell, he writes that boys in the first stage need lots of affection so that they can learn to love. The third stage is when the boy needs multiple adult mentors, beyond the father and mother, and fathers can help identify members in the community to guide their sons along to adulthood.
Biddulph delves into physiological matters as well, dedicating a whole chapter to the effects of testosterone on various behaviours such as aggression. Although the book is very much centred on boys, Biddulph also compares and contrasts raising boys and girls. He sketches out how the two can react differently in the same situations. Citing studies that show how boys are more prone than girls to separation anxiety, he advises fathers to keep boys out of child care if possible before the age of three.
Here, Biddulph revisits a theme running through his book: men must abandon the old-school idea of them being the breadwinner more than the father. On the one hand, sport renders benefits such as exercise, fun, achievement and is a way for fathers and sons to connect.
However, he also points out how sports is increasingly changing for the worse by perpetuating a culture of machismo, aggression, egotism, sexual crudity and an obsession with winning at all costs. He cautions dads against emphasising competition, as boys who are less talented might feel discouraged and excluded, and even eventually lose all interest in sport.
He also encourages dads to accept the reality that some boys are simply not good at sports. Biddulph would rather dads and sons simply find a common ground, an activity that both parties enjoy participating in, which may or may not be a sport.
To illustrate his point, Biddulph has selected three stories, each about community action turning boys into men. Ending on an optimistic note, these stories will no doubt provide inspiration to fathers about how they can join efforts with other caring, responsible adults to raise their sons to become happy and well-rounded men. References 1. Biddulph, Steve. Raising boys : why boys are different — and how to help them become happy and well-balanced men.
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Share via Email Boys used to be best. Rewind a generation or two, and the arrival of a bouncing baby boy brought a special kind of joy to the family. A boy ensured the family name would endure. He could achieve great things in the world, become prime minister or president, or at least ensure that the household had an extra source of income once he was old enough to haul coal, join the army or don a bowler hat. A girl, however bonny, was destined for a lesser fate.
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